Disabled, With Children

In one of my questionable scenarios, Brian has taken exception to be comparing two different things using the same term (“work”). This is great, and, yes, the “work” used in employment and the “work” used in raising children can be two different variants of the word. My point was not to compare them because we use the word “work” for each, but my point was that the skillsets needed to perform each function overlap in such a way that I don’t comprehend your ability to do one and not the other. If you are able to properly raise children, you should be able to work some type of job (not have to, but be able to, as in you shouldn’t be on disability).

I’ve given a few examples in the comment section of the original post, but let me give one or two more:

You are bipolar. This interferes with your ability to work because you are either so hyped up that you bother everyone and there are complaint from coworkers and customers, or you are so low (and symptoms of the low can vary) that you are totally useless because you can’t perform, to a reasonable degree, any function you were hired to perform. You are declared disabled by the state/federal government upon suggestion of your physician. Now, how can this person, whose bipolar issues are so uncontrolled that they can’t work their job, possbily give a child the attention it needs and deserves? Both the manic and the depressive phases would interfere with proper child-rearing. I’m not saying the child could not grow up healthy, physically, but what about the child’s mental state as the parent is swinging too far from norm to feed them, change them, clothe them, help them with homework, take them to soccer practice, take them to awards night, let them have friends over? I think it’s a fine line and that people who can’t, or have a lot of trouble, take care of themselves, are not going to properly be able to take care of a child.

On the other hand, if this person were on medication, or a series of medication, that would allow for more rational, proper behavior (as defined by being able to reasonably function in society), then there wouldn’t be any problem with their ability to have children, but it would also mean that there shoudn’t be any reason they couldn’t work a job as well.

That is one example, and one of a mental disorder as opposed to a physical disorder, but I think it illustrates the points I was trying to make in my original post a little better than I may have gotten it across the first time. I could certainly do a physical disability as well for comparisons. I’ve seen some of these first hand, too.

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2 Responses to Disabled, With Children

  1. brian says:

    I’ll get my thoughts together on this and blog about it. Is that okay?

  2. Roger says:

    Fine by me.

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